https://www.tohaveandholdfast.com/ideasadviceweddings daily 0.75 2026-04-07 https://www.tohaveandholdfast.com/ideasadviceweddings/how-to-celebrate-valentines-day-during-engagement monthly 0.5 2026-02-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1770377273248-G65VFWIR2YRWSU4F91UK/unsplash-image-8qxdUJf346A.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day during Engagement - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.tohaveandholdfast.com/ideasadviceweddings/your-spouse-is-a-mirror monthly 0.5 2026-01-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1769628925744-OT6OVBNZRYRH4F4FDEEQ/unsplash-image-zzMb7jacyBc.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Your Spouse is a Mirror - The Mirror James wrote in the Bible that we shouldn’t be people who simply listen to the word, as if just hearing anything really changed us. He said, “Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror, and after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.” (James 1:22-24) Rather, he explained, we should be people who take the extra moment to examine the mirror, to let the reality of what we see sink in: spiritual warts, wrinkles, and all. Let the mirror show us that we are imperfect. Let the mirror tell us that we need others to call us out. Let it reveal that we need people who will tell us when we are listening, but not doing. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1769629051745-15FTI9KE5T6TNGP802TX/unsplash-image-CgXnJ4Z5KFI.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Your Spouse is a Mirror - Your Spouse and the Mirror Just like my husband did, your spouse is in the best position to do that for you, because nobody loves you more. And it works both ways: you, gently and in love, are the best person to do that for your spouse, because nobody loves them more. In my story in my kitchen, I was ready to sin under the pretense of “unloading,” but the truth is, the Word tells me to “be angry and not sin” (Ephesians 4:26). So there is no biblical precedent for “unloading”, which is really just a grown-up way to say that I wanted to throw a fit. But it was my spouse who revealed that to me, my spouse who held the high standard. And as frustrated as I felt in the moment, I am so thankful that he did. Marriage is designed to be a mirror, a place where you and your spouse safely and lovingly correct each other. We often believe the lie that marriage is mostly about happiness. But the truth is, the end goal isn’t only to reach fifty years of a happy marriage, but fifty years of growing holiness. So I pray that at the end of my life, and at the end of each of your lives, we may present ourselves and our spouses before our king, holier than we were when we started. 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They showed up like an army in the morning (with coffee, of course) ready to do everyone’s hair, and brought a spirit of joy. They walked with me through so much life, it was special to have them help me get ready to walk down the aisle - just like they got me ready (spiritually, emotionally) for most other major things during my college years. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761968337840-TPTNXMFC80JAOVGIVVZ3/finished-82.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761968247880-1C24ARJRJFAKO4XYUEPM/finished-102.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761968404269-TNGUW65V8WRD5X7UCMCU/finished-101.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/c88090c4-ce21-4a6f-94b7-87a33ac93a20/finished-93.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait - How did others go above and beyond for you? We felt like our people took care of us so well, especially our bridesmaids and groomsmen. The maid of honor Allie was a champ: Kait’s grandpa broke his hip in the middle of the reception (praise God, he recovered well and was fine!), and we didn’t even know until he was already on his way to the hospital because she handled it completely for us. One of Paul’s groomsmen even spent the morning of our wedding with him shopping for new underwear, because that was the moment that he realized he needed some for the honeymoon! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761960020049-K1QI5HVSB881EH0A25NB/finished-139.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/8b626cf6-cb36-4802-b1e0-c5f5f3878245/finished-176.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait - “We didn’t want it to be a light thing, as if marriage was something that could come and go.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761968082158-MON7JZ49KKVSP36TNT7Y/finished-234.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761967942756-GDE7G2WL061O0U5GFJJN/finished-233.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - Paul and Kait https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/68b0a96bd3c29d11a9d22963/1761960291832-DPZRYNIVW1QE4D56W2F1/finished-217.jpg Ideas, Advice, and Weddings - 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