How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day during Engagement
Our culture loves to take a sweet thing like Valentine’s and make it into a day where hearts are broken from dashed expectations. How can you celebrate Valentine’s Day with your sweetheart, stress-free during engagement? Here’s my best advice below:
Make it a No-Wedding Planning Day.
You are doing enough planning, I can almost guarantee it. Make Valentine’s Day a no-planning day, even if you have to hide your laptop and your phone from yourself in order to do it. Your wedding will be there for you the day after, and it will be there the day before. Give yourself a day of rest, a day to focus on your relationship, and not your group project.
Lower Expectations.
We can put a lot of pressure on Valentine’s Day, but the truth is, we love our people every day of the year. Valentine’s Day is one day out of 365 that we have to show our bae that we adore them, and to receive love from them. Some men are born romantics and were made to celebrate a day about love, and others start to shake with nervousness just thinking of it. Will he do enough? What will you want? How will he know? Do yourselves both a favor, and take pressure off of your man. Enjoy whatever he does, and accept and receive it for whatever it is.
Think of How You Can Love Him, Instead.
There is nothing quite like being given a gift with joy, and with no expectations in return. Be this kind of fiance॔e to your man, the kind of woman who can give with a heart that overflows with love. When we know Christ as our Savior and Lord, we are able to fill our cup from his fountain, and show up in other spaces not as a vacuum, sucking out life, but as a hose, ready to share what we have with others. Being the kind of woman who truly believes that “It is more blessed to give than to receive,” (Acts 20:35) is the kind of woman who will bless her fiance॔ now, and her husband later.
Happy Valentine’s Day, and may you have a great, simple, stress-free day with your sweetheart!